Tag: self-doubt

Thank You, 2024

This year has been a big one for me. I’ve grown personally and professionally in ways I never expected, and while I still feel like there’s a long journey ahead, I’m grateful for every moment that has brought me here.


Moving In

By far the biggest development this year has been buying a house with my partner. It’s something we’d both dreamed of, but making it a reality felt like a huge (and, if I’m honest, occasionally daunting) step. Thankfully, we found an incredible mortgage advisor, Laura Bricknell at MortgageSolutionsHub, who simplified the process at every stage. She came highly recommended by a close friend, and now I can see why!

We ended up moving into a three-bedroom semi-detached house in a lovely town in the heart of Staffordshire. It’s quite a distance from Birmingham—where we both grew up—but we quickly fell in love with our new home’s surroundings. The town has everything we need: friendly neighbors, good shops, and plenty of scenic spots to explore.

Watching my partner turn this house into a home has been magical. I’d heard people talk about how you can transform a space by adding personal touches, but I never truly understood it until now. From the cozy décor in the living room to the art on the walls, she’s poured her creativity into every corner, and I feel so lucky to share this new chapter with her.

Of course, we couldn’t have achieved this milestone without the support of our friends and family. Their ongoing encouragement has been nothing short of incredible. From offering financial help, advice and lending a helping hand during the move, to simply being there to celebrate each small victory, they’ve played an irreplaceable role in making this year so special. To you all, I thank you, from the bottom of my heart.


Freya

Just when we thought life couldn’t get more exciting, we welcomed Freya, our new cat. She came to us from the Cheadle and District Animal Welfare Society, where she was originally named “Wendy.” Her backstory is quite something: she was found living in someone’s garden for several weeks and sleeping in a plant pot. Once she was taken in by the rescue, they discovered she was pregnant! In due course, she gave birth to six beautiful kittens on August 1st.

Since joining our family, Freya has settled in remarkably well. She’s already head-over-heels for our Labrador, Charlie, and it warms my heart to see them become best friends so quickly. Freya is a fearless little explorer—she’s inspected every nook and cranny of the house in record time! She adores cuddles, happily rolls over for belly rubs, and can’t get enough of being the centre of attention. I can’t imagine our home without her now.


Work

After starting at CASS in 2021, right in the midst of COVID, I’ve worked my way up through the ranks. Along the way, I’ve been fortunate to meet some wonderful people who truly helped me see my full potential. CASS has been a springboard for my growth in more ways than one. It’s shown me that when I come up with what I often consider “hare-brained” ideas, they’re not only taken seriously—they actually work!

Now, stepping up as the HSEQ Support Manager has allowed me to develop my own capabilities and nurture a different perspective on leadership. It’s more than just personal growth; it’s about learning to see the best in others and helping them to flourish as well. I’m excited for the next phase of my career and can’t wait to see how it continues to evolve in the coming year.

Anyone who knows me understands how nerdy I can be, and part of that “nerdery” includes taking inspiration from Brandon Sanderson’s Stormlight Archive—particularly the second ideal of the Bondsmiths:

                  “I will unite instead of divide – I will bring men together.”

Second ideal of the bondsmiths, as spoken by dalinar kholin

There’s something powerful about these words. They remind me that leadership isn’t about asserting authority or working in isolation; it’s about bringing people together, harnessing ideas, and creating an environment where everyone can use their own unique talent and experience to improve the lives of themselves, and the people around them.


SCUBA

This year, I also took on something I never imagined myself doing: SCUBA diving. What started as an interest in wild swimming naturally evolved into a deeper (literally!) exploration of the underwater world. There’s something incredibly humbling about getting to know the water—and the flora and fauna within it—in such an intimate and immersive way.

SCUBA diving has opened a whole new perspective for me. Being underwater feels like stepping into another world, one where the rush of daily life fades away, replaced by the quiet beauty of nature. It’s a chance to slow down, observe, and connect with the environment in a way that wild swimming first sparked in me, but diving has taken to another level.

So far, I’ve only done two dives, but they were unforgettable. Both were in the warm, blue waters of Siam Bay, part of the island of Ko Racha Yai, just outside of Phuket, Thailand. The vibrant marine life and the tranquil beauty of the ocean there were breathtaking, and it felt like stepping into another world.

While I’m still a novice, this is something I’m keen to continue. Each dive has been an adventure, and I’m excited to explore more dive spots and deepen my appreciation for the incredible ecosystems beneath the surface.


To the Future

This year, I’ve come to an important realization: I am not falling behind, as I once thought. For a long time, I felt like I was constantly playing catch-up, but now I see things differently. That shift isn’t solely because of the Sertraline in my system—though it has undeniably helped—but because I’m finally beginning to understand how things work.

That doesn’t mean I’ve mastered it—far from it. The truth is, nobody can ever fully know how everything works, and that’s okay. What I’ve learned is that growth isn’t about having all the answers or getting everything right the first time. It’s about being willing to step back, reflect, and embrace the learning process, no matter how messy or imperfect it might feel. I’m still not very good at it, and I’m still very much feeling like an imposter, but I’ve learned to accept that for what it is.

This understanding has brought me a sense of peace and confidence that I didn’t expect. I’m learning to trust myself more, to give myself grace, and to appreciate the journey for what it is—a journey. No journey is straight and direct; it’s full of twists, turns, and unexpected pitfalls. But the longer one walks, the easier it gets. With each step, I’m finding a rhythm, a direction, and most importantly, a trust in myself that I’ve never felt before.

To everyone who has walked with me on this journey, through the sun and the storms, thank you. Your presence—whether through kind words, shared laughter, or simply being there—has made all the difference in the world. I hope you know how much you mean to me. Here’s to continuing the walk together, into brighter days ahead.

Adventures in Anxiety

I’ve always had issues with anxiety and self doubt. And to be honest I still do, and more than likely will always have that annoying little voice in the back of my mind telling me that “You’re not good enough” or “You’re going to fail and make yourself look like an idiot – so why try?”

It’s not easy battling with your own mind, and anxiety makes life difficult. When my wonderful girlfriend tells me she’s had a bad day, my mind immediately springs into panic mode, and on top of that, I also start blaming myself for her bad day. It sounds insane, right? That’s because in a way, it is.

My anxious mind takes me through some very silly thought processes, and this all came to a head a few years ago when I ended up having a full blown anxiety attack over something so insignificant that I can’t even remember what it was. I remember being on the phone to my dad and he said something along the lines of “You need therapy.” He was right.

Such thoughts have plagued me for almost my entire life. I can’t help but think it’s held me back from things I would have otherwise done.

Looking for a light in the darkness doesn’t always come easily to everyone.

Although I didn’t see it at the time, through a I came to realise that I had lived with anxiety since childhood, and that it had always influenced the way I went about my life.

Looking back, I see that I let a lot of opportunities pass me by.

I could have gone on a school trip to Spain that would have included entry to the PortAventura theme park as well as other amazing places, but I tore up the cheque that my dad had written at the last moment, because I was scared.

I was a fussy eater, and I wouldn’t like the food, My Spanish wouldn’t be good enough if I got lost and needed to ask for help. I’d have to share a room with other kids, and they might pick on me because I snore too loud. I’d have to be away from my family, friends, and everything I’d ever known.

This was daunting to 13 year old me, and looking back, I realised that I actually really wanted to go on this school trip, yet I had let my anxiety and self-doubt get the better of me.

Years later, as I type this, I am mentally kicking myself for not doing these things. But I also realise that I had no idea about anxiety and self-doubt. These were not widely discussed subjects growing up in the 2000’s. Sure, the foundations for wider acceptance of mental health issues had been laid, but it was still not commonly taught, yet alone accepted.

We all suffered and yet we all felt that we couldn’t talk to anyone about the issues we had for fear of not been taken seriously, or worse – being laughed at.

It’s only recently that I’ve come to accept that my achievements are my own, and the fact that I was supported by people doesn’t devalue what I have done.

At the end of the day, I had financial help from my parents to learn to fly, but it was still me who flew the plane and studied for weeks for the exams. It was me who studied so hard that I gave myself a migraine. It was me, and the achievements are mine.

I still get that voice in the back of my head, telling me I am worthless, and that I shouldn’t even try. But that voice is a liar. It will always be there, screaming and shouting at me, trying to drag me down. Sometimes it might drag me down for a time, but I always get back up.


If you are suffering from anxiety or any other mental health condition, there’s no shame in admitting that there is an issue, and talking about it.

Click here to go to MIND, where you can find help and support.


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